While it’s more common now than ever before for brides to choose to keep their last name after getting married, there are still plenty of women who choose to take their husband’s names, as well as an increasing number of husband’s taking their wife’s names, same-sex couples having one or both people change their names, and even couples deciding to create a new surname together.
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There is no wrong answer for what you decide to do with your name after marriage, but if you do decide to adopt a new surname, there are some things you should keep in mind. While most people are familiar with the paperwork that comes with changing your name, there are other aspects – big and small – that you may not have thought of. These issues may not change your decision one way or another, but it’s always good to be prepared!
- You’ll have a new signature. Signing your name is probably the only time you ever write in cursive anymore, and now you’ll have a new name to adapt to. If you have a particularly stylized signature, you’ll have to adapt and create a new one. Chances are you’ll sign the wrong name a few times – think of it like writing the wrong year during the first few weeks of January.
- The username and email question. Changing your display name on social media sites is typically simple, but changing your actual account name (aka your handle) can be more of a hassle if you choose to. For email, you’d have to create a new one, so the choice is either between making a new email address and having to inform your contacts or keeping your email and potentially confusing those you meet in the future.
- Monogrammed items will be outdated. If you have luggage, towels, tote bags, or other items with your monogram, unless you are lucky enough to share a last initial with your new spouse, they will no longer apply.
- It will take getting used to. Not only will friends and family need an adjustment period, but you also might find you don’t recognize your new name when you first hear it, particularly in situations where you only hear your surname, such as at the doctor.