There are countless gender stereotypes in the world, especially when it comes to the world of weddings. If you’re recently engaged, you’ve probably heard more than your fair share of jokes about “bridezillas” or reluctant grooms being dragged down the aisle. Though of course there are exceptions, it is more common for men to be less involved in the wedding planning – even when they’re actually excited about getting married and having a large event. Often, this is due to societal pressure and feeling like they’re not supposed to be interested in the process of coordinating the big day. For some brides with a clear vision, this works. Others want their nuptials to be a team effort and genuinely want their future husband’s opinions.
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Here are some tips to help a groom get more invested in wedding planning:
- Be honest about your expectations. If you ask his opinion about linens and then just go with the color you like anyway, he will understandably feel like you don’t really value his insight.
- Find out what is important. He might surprise you by having strong feelings about the color scheme, or he could go the more expected route and care about the music or food. You won’t know until you ask!
- Utilize his skills. If his job involves spreadsheets, he can help divvy up the budget. If he likes working with his hands, maybe he can help build a beautiful arbor. Is he a writer? He can work with the officiant on writing a sentimental ceremony. Every person will have their own individual strengths they can bring to the table.
- Let him pick his ensemble. Sure, you always pictured your guy in a class black tux, but it’s his big day too. If you wouldn’t let his ideas affect your choice in bridal gown, your vision shouldn’t keep him from his dream outfit. Should his prospective option really not fit with the formality of the event, it’s a sign that you two need to make sure you’re on the same page for what kind of wedding you’re having.