Because some things are just out of your control.
When you begin planning your wedding, it’s often advised to start researching etiquette that is involved with hosting one’s nuptials. After all, some things that would be perfectly fine at a normal party are considered a faux pas for weddings, which can be confusing for those who don’t have much experience outside their own special day.
Unfortunately, those who are invited to weddings are less likely to look into the different rules of etiquette. Sure, most will know to follow the dress code and that it’s polite – but not required – to bring a gift, but there are many aspects of wedding-day etiquette that seem obvious to brides constantly reading blogs on the subject. Therefore, there are bound to be a few attendees who make a few mistakes when celebrating your love.
The below list are what we find to be the most common errors. Many of them may seem very irritating, but in order to let these things not ruin your day, it’s important to keep in mind that generally these loved ones are not being malicious. Though knowing the possibilities ahead of time may help you prevent your nearest and dearest from committing these breaches of etiquette, if they do occur it is best to try and forgive.
- Not sending their RSVP in by the deadline.
- Asking for (or bringing) a plus one when it wasn’t offered on the invitation.
- Arriving late to the ceremony. Not everyone realizes the time on the invitation is the actual ceremony start time.
- Doing the opposite of what their RSVP card said, whether attending when they sent regrets, or being an unexpected no-show.
- Wearing a shade of white, especially as many brides don’t wear pure white gowns. We always advise guests to not wear these hues, but ultimately people will still know you’re the bride.
- Asking questions the morning of the wedding. Put as much information on your wedding website as you can, and encourage a less-busy family member or bridesmaid to act as liaison.
- Taking photos during the ceremony. Signs at the entrance and statements from the officiant may prevent this, but it’s not always enough.
- Forgetting to turn off or silence their cell phone during the vow exchange.