Planning a wedding is hard work, which is why so many brides and grooms turn to consultants! But even with a skilled planner, the engaged couple is still expected to make most of the decisions. The stress can be so much that it’s not uncommon to hear an exasperated bride declare that she should just elope. But that feeling goes away once she looks at the beloved centerpieces again. One of the main reasons planning your nuptials can be so stressful is having a tendency to second-guess your decisions. It’s an issue that plagues many a bride and groom, but there are steps to calm that inclination.
Once the planning begins, have a detailed timeline so you know when each decision must be made. Come up with a reward system so you can treat yourself for making a decision on time. The more important the accomplishment, the bigger the reward for you! If conducive to your schedule, a shorter engagement will give you less time to rethink your choices. Besides your future spouse, have one or two people to get advice from. Otherwise, don’t look for further input; it will just overwhelm you with too many ideas and opinions.
Use sites like Pinterest to help you picture what you have in mind, so that aisle runners are more than a nebulous concept. Instead of one big wedding board, make a board for each category of the day. Once you say yes to the dress, stop looking at your wedding gown board. The same goes for your bouquet, bridesmaid dresses, guest book, and more. Think of each planning decision like the search for your future spouse: once you commit, stop looking!
Don’t worry too much about whether your celebration is overly trendy. Weddings will never look completely timeless, and those that come close are usually missing the personalized details that make each day special. Did your friend tell you mason jars are too 2013? Who cares! The only thing that matters is if you like the aesthetic. Sure, some current styles may go the way of the large sleeves of the 1980s, but the memories are what you'll look back fondly on. If you must second-guess a choice you made, make sure it’s because you changed your mind, not that you’re worried about what others will say.