How Grooms Can Avoid Common Wedding Planning Mistakes

After all, it's their day to plan for too!

Discover tips for grooms who want to be involved in the wedding-planning process leading up to the big day.

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When it comes to wedding planning, most people assume the bride is doing all the work. Setting aside the fact that not every wedding even has a bride (and of course, some have two), this tends to imply that there isn’t much a groom can do wrong when it comes to coordinating the big day. After all, if he isn’t involved, he can’t mess up, right? Well, we would consider being entirely uninvolved with the planning a mistake, but there are several more common errors a groom should try to avoid. 

If you told your bride to take the lead, and that’s genuinely want she wants as well, there’s nothing inherently wrong with that. However, she’s still likely to ask your opinion on some things. While it’s perfectly reasonable – and important – to express yourself when you don’t like something, make sure you’re not only putting forth negative thoughts about your future wife’s ideas. Share what you do like as well; otherwise it will get very frustrating very quickly for your beloved. 

It’s also important to not procrastinate. Whether you take on your own project or are assigned a task by your sweetheart, keep in mind there’s a reason for deadlines – one item on your to-do list often affects whether you’re able to move on to the next. 

When it comes to your family, balance is important. Not including them and their ideas can lead to hurt feelings and resentment. That said, you also don’t want to let them take over entirely. Unfortunately, the relationship between a woman and her mother-in-law can sometimes be strained and tense, so it’s important to not start off on the wrong foot during the wedding planning process. After all, it’s an emotional time for everyone involved. 

Another mistake to avoid is not thinking things through. Just as we recommend brides not choose their bridesmaids as soon as the engagement is announced, the same goes for selecting your groomsmen. Give it a couple months to think about who is there for you. Chances are you’ll also give a short speech at the reception, and that is something you don’t want to do on the fly. The same goes for your vows, if you’re writing your own. Make sure there’s a hard copy, no matter how much you practiced at home. Nerves have a way of clearing your mind at the worst time possible. 

For more advice, find out what items grooms should have in an emergency kit, how to plan a wedding while you're in a long-distance relationship, and read wedding tips from real grooms