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How to Keep a Positive Attitude Throughout the Big Day

Even if something happens to go wrong at your wedding, here's how to remain calm and stay in a good mood.

It's inevitable that something won't go according to plan on your wedding day – while there are steps you can take to fix it, the only thing you can really control is your attitude.

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Your wedding is supposed to be the happiest day of your life. Though it's inevitable that some things won't go as you planned, it's important to focus on staying in a good mood – after all, it's a once-in-a-lifetime event that you won't want to look back on in disappointment. With emotions running high on wedding days due to the culmination of months of planning with a wide range of guests from all parts of your life in attendance, stress can begin to creep in. Whether you were heavily involved in planning the big day or not, you'll admittedly want everything go perfectly. So when even the smallest detail goes wrong, it can either cause a mood swing and make a bride feel like the day is ruined – or you can choose to let it go and focus on what really matters: marrying the love of your life.  

The advice below will help you let go of any minor aspects that dare to try to ruin your big day – because one way to "prepare" for what you really can't prepare for is to realize that even if something does go wrong, it doesn't have to be as big of a deal as it may seem to be at the time.

Just Breathe

If you tend to feel anxious when all eyes are on you, or you find yourself putting too much pressure on yourself to make sure the big day is perfect, take a moment to sit down, close your eyes, and just breathe. It sounds simple, but when you're in go-go-go mode, taking a few seconds to relax and remember what matters can make a huge difference in your mood.

Have an Emergency Kit

The more prepared you are, the fewer potential disasters can have a large impact on your day. Click here for a list of suggested items to have at the ready to make sure you don't have to waste any time tracking down a needle and thread to repair your gown or a stain remover if you happen to spill your red wine.

Remember to Laugh

Barring any serious injuries, the majority of wedding mishaps are something you will someday look back on in laughter – or at least with a smile. If your wedding cake collapses while you cut it or it melts in the sun, try to have some fun – and then deal with your vendors when you return from your mini-moon or honeymoon. 

Have Photos at the Ready

Your wedding planner or day-of coordinator should be outfitted with images of what your florist said they would produce in case there is a mishap. If it's not perfect, try not to let it bother you on the day of – your guests likely don't know what you planned and therefore won't be disappointed. Similarly, if you had a hair and/or makeup trial (both of which we highly recommend), have pictures of what look you decided on. Your stylists have a lot of clients, and you’ll both be happier with a guide to recreate your dream wedding look. 

Slip Into Something Comfortable

You don’t need to have a second dress for the reception (unless, of course, you want to!), but it’s important that you’re able to move and breathe easily throughout your reception – especially on the dance floor! In that same vein, making sure you have shoes that won’t keep you from enjoying the evening is crucial. You don't want to look back on your wedding day and focus on the pain you were in throughout the reception.

Let Loose & Focus on Celebrating

Even if you fall during your grand entrance into the reception, the best man's speech was over 10 minutes long and inappropriate, or the DJ played everything on your “do not play” list, the important thing is that you’ve married the love of your life. Do your best to laugh it off and celebrate together.

Take a Moment to Watch Your Guests

You've spent months planning the event of a lifetime for your loved ones, so take some time to revel in your accomplishment! Many of the couples featured in Inside Weddings  share that their favorite part of the day was when they stopped, took a step back, and watched all of their friends and family having the time of their lives on the dance floor.

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