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What to Do When Someone Crashes Your Wedding

Know your options when dealing with surprise guests – and how to prevent them.

A party crasher is always an annoyance, but the amount of time, money, and emotion that goes into someone’s wedding makes it an especially egregious offense.

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Though it would be fun to place the blame at the feet of Owen Wilson and Vince Vaughn, stars of the 2005 movie Wedding Crashers, the truth is wedding and party crashers have been a nuisance since there were events to crash. A party crasher is always an annoyance, but the amount of time, money, and emotion that goes into someone’s wedding makes it an especially egregious offense. You had a guest list for a reason, and it’s understandable to want those invited to be the only people to witness your special day.

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What people don’t always realize is that there are different kinds of wedding crashers and they need to be handled in different ways. There is the category of people you know, be they unauthorized plus ones, children at your adults-only reception, or specifically unwanted guests; and then there are pure strangers, usually people who happened to wander by and wanted to check out the party.

People You Know:
It’s annoying, but it’s often best to just try to accommodate people who just show up. Usually it’s someone who didn’t RSVP or understand that they were not offered a plus one. Have a few extra meals and chairs ready in case you get any surprise guests. However, if the crasher is someone you have major bad blood with (i.e. an ex) or who is otherwise guaranteed to disrupt the festivities, feel free to have them removed. To avoid extra plus ones or children at your adults-only wedding, make it very clear on your invitations and save the dates. A good tip: Have your RSVP expressly mention how many seats are reserved.

Strangers:
First, make sure it's not a friend of your parents or in-laws whom you haven't met. Once it is confirmed to be a stranger crashing the wedding, have your planner or a member of the bridal party ask them to leave. Some newlyweds don't mind if the crashers are not taking the food or drinks and just dancing, but you are well within your rights to have them depart the festivities. They probably won't match the dress code, so that will make them easier to spot. If you really want to avoid crashers, you can always hire security for your wedding. This would also leave you, your family, and your bridal party free to celebrate – regardless of whether or not unwanted guests arrive.

Find more wedding planning tips here and learn what you need to know about the wedding-day timeline

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