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What You Shouldn't Post on Social Media When You're Engaged

When happy news becomes too much information...

Your life may be all wedding all the time, but you shouldn’t share everything about the planning process online.

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In this modern world, it’s become expected to share happy news such as an engagement online through social media (get announcement and engagement caption ideas here!). It’s certainly an efficient way to spread the news to your larger social circle (as your VIPs should always get the news personally). An online album is also how most people will see your wedding photos, but what about everything else that happens between the proposal and big day? Your life may be all wedding all the time, but you shouldn’t share everything about the planning process online. 

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Photo by Brian Leahy Photography; Planning & Design by Andrea Eppolito Events; From Real Wedding: A Hawaiian Couple's Luxurious Destination Wedding in Las Vegas

Read on to see what your friends and followers might consider gauche or too over the top to share while you’re preparing for the big day:

Multiple Photos of the Engagement Ring

Of course, it may be what most people really want to see, but more than one clear shot or video of your new sparkler will come across as bragging. Consider a few shots of you as a couple, perhaps one or two of you by yourself with your ring, and just one close up.

Registry Information

Including links to your wedding-day wish list on your wedding website online is fine, but otherwise you should not share unless asked. Even if multiple people ask about your wedding registry, share the links via private messages, rather than a public post.

Wedding Date and Location

A countdown when you get closer to the big day might be tolerated on social media, but sharing details of the big day tends to invite people wondering if they will be asked to attend. Leave that information to your invited guests on your invitations and wedding website.

Any Complaints

Planning a wedding is a stressful process, but don't let your frustrations translate to your social media. Venting sessions should not be shared where they can easily be shown to the offending party, be it a vendor, a flaky bridesmaid, or a cousin who was late to RSVP. 

The Guest List

Even if you have a very private social media presence and you’re only followed by your nearest and dearest, it still comes across as tacky to specify anything about who is invited online. 

Your Wedding Dress

Don’t ruin your big reveal! Images of your wedding dress, whether from a stock photo or you at your alterations appointment, should not be seen by the masses until after you tie the knot.

For more wedding tips and ideas for your big day, get advice for attending weddings when you're engaged, see ideas for your cocktail hour music, and find out when you should send thank-you notes