Beds for Newlyweds: 7 Tips for Buying Your First Mattress Together

Discover advice on choosing the mattress style that's right for you as a couple.

Beds for Newlyweds: 7 Tips for Buying Your First Mattress Together

Photo: Jana Williams Photography

With all that goes into wedding planning, sometimes the only time when a couple can think of life after the nuptials is when they add to their registry. Even when compiling items for the wish list, though, brides and grooms choose household items such as kitchen gadgets, china, and maybe even bedding – but what about the mattress that you'll be covering with those new sheets and sleeping on as a married couple? 

To get some tips for finding a mattress that is of high quality and suits you both, the experts at CertiPUR-US, a not-for-profit foam certification program, have shared their tips for newlyweds with us. Read on below for more details!

Buying your first mattress together as newlyweds new marriage tips

Photo by Jana Williams Photography

It’s one of the most important purchases you'll make together – after all, you spend a third of your life in bed and the quality of your sleep can profoundly affect your everyday mood and long-term health. However, for many just-hitched couples, mattress shopping can be a mystery. It’s not an easy item to comparison-shop, and, also, who has tons of experience buying mattresses? The good news is that this is one item on your shopping list you can take lying down! 

Here are seven tips to help you feather your new nest together:

Size matters. When sharing a bed, consider a queen- or king-size mattress. We typically move around in bed 40-60 times a night and make lots of full-body turns. Freedom of motion is critical to sound sleep.

Shop and flop. If you're shopping traditional retail or in person at department stores, go together, wear comfortable clothes and shoes you can easily slip off, and don’t be shy – lie down for a solid 5-10 minutes and compare notes.

Buying online? It’s increasingly popular, but do your research. Buying a mattress from an e-tailer is convenient, but carefully check return and shipping policies. Test their customer service response before you buy to be sure they’ll be responsive should there be a problem.

Get a room. If you’re not in a hurry, book a romantic getaway at a hotel that carries the brand of mattress in which you are interested. Or, have you liked a bed at a particular hotel? Ask them what brand it is. Concierges are often asked this question.

How does it feel? Whether a mattress is too cushy or too firm is highly individual. A memory foam mattress sleeps differently than an innerspring mattress. Compare a variety of types of beds to narrow your choices. Can’t agree? Some couples opt for beds divided into two compartments with individual controls so each half can have a different setting.

What’s inside? A new resource for the health-conscious is CertiPUR-US, a not-for-profit certification program for the polyurethane foam used in bedding (and upholstered furniture).  Certified foam is made without PBDEs, TDCPP, or TCEP (“Tris”) flame retardants, ozone depleters, formaldehyde, lead, mercury, or other heavy metals, and phthalates regulated by the Consumer Product Safety Commission. The foam is also tested to be low VOC (Volatile Organic Compounds) for indoor air quality.

Shop for value, not price. Newlyweds spend much of their time in the bedroom, and, let’s face it – many marital issues are either created or solved in bed. Being tired or suffering from back pain isn’t conducive to intimacy. Buy the best mattress you can afford and consider it an investment in your marriage.

Being in the haven of a bed with your beloved is one of life’s most wonderful and simple experiences. Whether you're spooning, face-to-face, or have each other’s back, your nights together can greatly enhance your relationship and individual sense of well-being. And there's no better foundation for your future days of marital bliss than a good night’s sleep.