So you’ve been in a relationship for a while now, and feel it’s time to take the next step. In your desire to get engaged, it is likely that you will be primarily preoccupied with what your engagement ring will look like. This is a piece of jewelry that you will likely wear for the rest of your life, so it is understandable that you want to make sure it’s in your style and something you love.
However, it’s traditionally your significant other who will be the one to pick out the engagement ring, prior to proposing. Therefore you find yourself in a tricky position – making sure your partner makes the right choice when ring shopping. Now, assuming you’ve already discussed marriage, and not just in the vague "yeah, I could see marrying you someday" sense, it is perfectly reasonable to take the straightforward approach and simply share which rings you want. You can even suggest that the two of you go ring shopping together. If your sweetheart agrees, that's also a clear sign that you are both on the same page and timeline.
That said, some women prefer to attempt a more subtle approach, in order to maintain an air of mystery to the proceedings. Here are some tips on how to do so:
- A classic ploy is to leave magazines open to advertisements of ring styles you like, or ripping out pages and placing them where you know your beloved will see them. The 21st-century version of this is to leave websites up on your computer or tablet that display your preferred ring. A public Pinterest page will do wonders in this regard.
- Make sure your mother, sister, or best friend knows what kind of engagement ring you want. If you don’t think your partner is likely to ask for help, encourage your loved ones to reach out.
- Frequently talk up celebrity engagement rings that you love, as well as the styles you aren’t fond of. This also works for your friends’ rings as well.
- Point out styles you like when walking past jewelry store windows.
- Remember, sharing what you don't like is almost as important as what you do like. Let you sweetheart know what to avoid.
Opening photo by Braedon Photography