There are plenty of helpful sources on the web that make creating your personalized site easy and fun, so it's no wonder couples from all over the world are logging on. However, as we know, with great power comes great responsibility; there’s an etiquette to follow if you’re going to partake in this 21st century bridal tradition.
We’ve put together a list of four faux pas you may want to avoid:
1. Don’t Spend Too Much Time. Website analytics show that most people don’t do too much exploring: most of the time, they head straight for the registries page. Making the perfect website shouldn’t take priority over, say, arranging the seating chart or selecting your cake. The purpose of the site is to inform – and slightly entertain – but, luckily, it’s also for you and your betrothed. Let’s face it; you spend hours picking the perfect snapshots because the site is a celebration of your love. But be careful – if you’re not keeping track of time, it could turn out to be more thoughtful and precise than your vows. Enjoy the sweet process, but don’t neglect your other wedding duties!
2. Don’t Demand. After many stress-filled months, it’s easy to fall into the “I know best” mindset. Maybe after a few dozen trips to your venue, you know all too well that local bees are attracted to the color yellow and that parking lot A is much farther away than parking lot B. When writing information for your friends and family on your website, resist the urge to type “DO NOT WEAR YELLOW OR PARK IN PARKING LOT A” or something with a similar tone. As strongly as you may feel about bees stings and sore feet, there is a better way to word your warnings: “A word of caution: local bees seem to love the color yellow, so we suggest sticking with different colors,” “Against common sense, parking lot B is much closer to the venue than parking lot A: if you’re not keen on the extra work out, park in B!” Your guests will appreciate the pleasantly conveyed information.
3. Don’t Add Information on Exclusive Pre-Wedding Events. These can be bridal showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties, or any other pre-nuptial event that has a limited guest list. The website is for all guests invited to the nuptials, and though it may be convenient to put all wedding-related celebrations in one place, giving information about your Palm Springs bachelorette party to the masses seems a bit cruel. Send separate emails to your bridal party in regards to special fêtes; they’ll be excited about receiving multiple invitations and your other guests won’t feel like they’re being left out.
4. Don’t Use the Website for RSVPs. Or, at least don’t use it exclusively. While the mail system isn’t perfect, neither is the internet, and there is a chance something may go wrong. The larger the event, the more difficult it is to contact every guest to double check if their online RSVP is correct. Additionally, older attendees may not have access or feel comfortable using a wedding website, so it’s always a good idea to send out invitations in the mail that include response cards with a stamped return envelope; this way, the only people you may have to contact are the ones who forget to send their response back.
Opening photo courtesy of Minted