6 Smashing Ways to Ask Someone to Be Your Bridesmaid

Discover how you can make the ultimate request in a personal, memorable way.

6 Smashing Ways to Ask Someone to Be Your Bridesmaid

By Marilyn Oliveira

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Photo: Joe Buissink Photography

It is truly an honor to be asked to be a wedding attendant, and not just because it comes with a seat at the head table. Your bridesmaids will literally be standing by your side as you exchange your vows and transition from single lady to married woman, and requesting that someone stand up for you at your wedding has taken on an air of formality in recent years.

While it is certainly okay to “propose” to your would-be attendants simply by asking, there are a bevy of fun, creative, and meaningful ways you can pop the question. Take a look at the simple and elegant options here, and see if one works with your personal style.

1. Give Her a Card

Will You Be My Bridesmaid card

There is a plethora of lovely stationery cards designed specifically for “proposing” to potential bridesmaids. Whether you decide to go elegant or humorous, a quality card gets your question across and makes a lovely keepsake as well. Photo courtesy of Unify/Etsy

2. Say It With Flowers

Will You Be My Bridesmaid? flowers by The Hidden Garden

What girl doesn’t love to be surprised with a flower delivery? Fresh blooms tie perfectly into the wedding theme, plus they’ll help pave the way when you need to ask her for wedding help later. Photo courtesy of The Hidden Garden

3. Pencil Her In

Minted notebook for Will You Be My Bridesmaid gift

A pretty notebook has the extra benefit of allowing you to write a heartfelt appeal inside, and she’ll have a dedicated place to keep track of wedding-related details. Photo courtesy of Minted

4. Gift Her With Jewelry

Will You Be My Bridesmaid necklace

A necklace or pair of earrings is easy to attach to card that begs the big question, and can even be purchased attached as a set. A personal touch is especially appreciated for a gift such as this, so look for jewelry that reflects her name, initial, or favorite gemstone. Photo courtesy of Not on the High Street

5. Box Your Request

Will You Be My Bridesmaid or Bridesman Box

Who says your attendants all have to be female? As traditions have evolved, more and more brides are asking men friends to stand up for them, and a laser-cut box containing a boutonniere is one elegant way to pop the question. Photo courtesy of Unshakably Unique/Etsy

6. Drop Him a Personal Line

Will You Be My Bridesman card by Laura Hooper Calligraphy

There are not as many card options for bridesmen as maids, so some custom calligraphy may be in order. Choose a decadent cardstock and a lovely font, and he’ll have a keepsake he can hold onto until you return the favor. Photo courtesy of Laura Hooper Calligraphy

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