They say that developing a seating chart will be one of the biggest challenges you face whilst planning your nuptials – and particularly your wedding reception. If you choose to assign tables for your wedding guests – especially if all attendees are given specifics seats – you’ll have to pour over your guest list to devise the best possible arrangement for your friends and family. Many couples spend so much time concentrating on their extended families, high school friends, and young children that they forget to make an equally important seating assignment: their own as the bride and groom.
When it comes to the newlyweds’ placement during dinner at the wedding reception, the bride and groom often have two options: a head table setup or a “sweetheart table.” The head table refers to a larger table that includes the newly wedded pair, their bridal party, and/or immediate family members. The sweetheart table is a much smaller arrangement wherein the bride and groom sit by themselves at their own table during the reception. Both the sweetheart table and head table options have their upsides and downsides. As seeing that the positives for one option also serve as the negatives for the other, we decided to put forth the "head table" pros and "sweetheart table" pros, in lieu of true pros and cons, to help you choose what seating arrangement is right for your wedding.
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The Head Table - Pros
- You’re immersed in the company of loved ones. You and your new spouse will be surrounded by the most important people in your lives, which can be a godsend when trying to wind down all of the ceremony nerves. Your maid/matron of honor, best man, and wedding party will help to settle your jitters and prepare you for an evening of fun and celebration. It’s important to remind yourself of the non-serious elements of your big day!
- It’s yet another way to honor those close to you. Many couples often forget that any friend or sibling that accepts the title of “bridal party member” also accept to honor you, the bride or groom. Your bridal party has elected to stand up with you as you commit your love and loyalty to another person, and many newlyweds want to make their friends feel their appreciation by seating them at the wedding head table. Choosing to host a head table is yet another small way to ensure your bridesmaids and groomsmen feel special at the reception.
- Guests don’t feel as separated from you. As opposed to being isolated, you and your sweetie are talking and laughing with others, which will lessen any perceived divides between you and your guests. Though the newlyweds are the reason for the celebration and party, no guest wants to feel like they are somehow below you and your spouse, especially on a day set aside to celebrate love.
The Sweetheart Table - Pros
- You can spend some rare alone time with your beloved. The wedding day will absolutely fly by, and though the purpose of the event is your marriage, couples often note that they don’t get to have much one-on-one time with their love throughout the celebration. If you couldn’t schedule an intimate “first look,” or plan for a half an hour alone after the ceremony, a sweetheart table gives you the opportunity to relax with your new husband or wife.
- Your bridal party has a better opportunity to mingle. Your bridesmaids and groomsmen won’t have to line themselves up at a long head table – instead, they’ll be able to converse with one another more easily at reception tables. Similarly, they will be guaranteed a spot next to their dates, while wedding head tables may not allow space for the significant others of bridal party members. This way, no one will have to be split from their loved one.
- You’ll feel the need to stand up and converse with all guests. Being alone at a sweetheart table will likely make easier to get out of your seats to greet all of your family members and guests at their respective table. While you can quickly get complacent surrounded by friends, the slight distance at sweetheart tables will compel you to spend time walking around, talking with your bridal party as well as all other revelers. Guests are sure to appreciate the special attention they receive from the couple of honor.
In summary, if you choose to create a focal point as newlyweds at a sweetheart table, wedding guests and your bridal party may have more of an opportunity to mingle together and with you; however, a head table wedding arrangement will ensure your bridal party feels extra special throughout the celebration. Once you decide whether a sweetheart table vs head table is right for your big day, it's time to sit back, be happy with your decision, and let the rest of the planning commence!
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